Most of us have endured some silences in our relations with women we wish hadn’t happened. Well, first, you don’t have to be scared of silences, because they can be helpful. And second, there are ways to get a sparkling conversation going from next to ZERO material.

Let’s Take a Moment to Look Left

Brief related tangent time: one question I get asked a lot is “What should I talk about?”

Sure, now you know HOW you’re supposed to talk, but so many guys get stuck on WHAT to talk about. After all, those dead silences are murder for attraction, right?

First off, not so fast bad-mouthing silence. More on that later.

Second, it REALLY doesn’t matter WHAT you talk about, so long as you make it interesting. I’ve said this again and again, but let me stress it now: you can talk about ANYTHING and it’ll be ok.

You can tell a date her butt looks HUGE in that dress. Say it right and she won’t walk out or slap you, she’ll laugh.

You can wonder aloud whether postal workers get high on stamp glue.

You can go on for half an hour about the off-color corner of that rare Elvis stamp you have framed on your wall… well, ok, maybe not that one. If you talk at length about certified punchline hobbies, you might be in trouble.

Unless you’re making fun of them, of course.

Can stupid stuff work? You betcha.

But seriously, this isn’t rocket science. This isn’t even high school science, despite how often the word “chemistry” gets bandied about.

When I was still studying these skills, some of my “natural” friends would tell me lines they’d used with great success. I didn’t believe it. The things they related to me sounded so… DUMB, I couldn’t fathom an attractive intelligent woman would go for them.

Then I saw these guys in action. Sure, I could HEAR the stupidity of some of the lines – the corniness, the transparency, the if-this-were-in-a-Bond-movie-I’d-groan-now quality to them.

Still, they worked. I had new respect for groaners in Bond movies.

The key was ALL in the nonverbal delivery, as we’ve talked about at length.

Ok, so now that I’ve hopefully reminded you not to worry too much about the actual content, let me add sometimes you don’t need content AT ALL.

The Golden Silence is as good as the Golden Tongue

Strange, eh? I have one friend who isn’t a gabber, who doesn’t like to partake in anything CLOSE to small talk. And when he’s out with women, there are numerous silences.

And it WORKS. Why? Because he’s comfortable with it.

Listen, reality is all about perception. If you’re scared of awkward silences, they become awkward. If you aren’t, the silences become NATURAL. And that kind of thing stinks of relaxed confidence.

When you’re relaxed and comfortable enough to let a silence come and it DOESN’T BUG YOU, it communicates all sorts of positive things. Relaxed Confidence. Real (no games). Uh, we need a new word here, not gravity, but the opposite of frivolity. But while staying playful. We’ll call it gravolity.

To be clear, don’t overdo this. If you never say anything, well, you’re just boring. But don’t be scared of the occasional silence, or letting the lady start a topic and playing with it. (My silent friend does this all the time – and pretty soon, the women are starting all sorts of conversations and he’s viewed as fascinating because they’re talking about things they like to talk about. Who started the conversation never really enters into their head.)

(Hey, by the way, did you know that psychological studies say that the person who is LEAST comfortable with silence in a group – and hence breaks it – is almost always the MOST insecure? Still want to fill every last second of air time?)

Silence is nice, but… let’s talk

Still, sometimes you will find yourself in need of something to talk about. And your mind will be blank. You know the time for conversation is here – but you’re clueless how to start it.

Well, this is one of the reasons I recommend avoiding dinners and traditional dates, and prefer shared activities. Especially in fun cool areas. Who needs to worry about conversation when there’s a man on a leash walking in front of you on the sidewalk, or a shop window with a dismembered mannequin head smeared with lipstick wearing a Ronald McDonald wig and a sign saying “Love me?”

If you can’t think of anything to say in stimulating areas, then you’re just not trying. Or you’re freaking – in which case you need to use one of your relaxation triggers to get yourself CALM and able to THINK.

Come on, some of our granddaddies kept their heads with the enemy shooting at them. You can do it with an attractive lady.

But you can’t ALWAYS be in a Greenwich Village knockoff. Sometimes you need to come up with topics all by your lonesome, right?

Wrong. See, the definition of conversation is you have to have at least two people. And that dynamic helps a lot.

Having the conversation SHE wants, every time

Lets borrow a trick from sales, where the seller needs to establish a friendly connection quickly. How do they do it?

They listen for key words in statements they hear. And you can do the same. One simple sentence from your favorite lady can lead to a night’s worth of dialogue.

Example:

“Hi.”

“No, I’m not. Or were you offering? I barely know you, and already you bring psychotropic drugs into our relationship? Wow, you are one crazy chick.”

(She should be laughing, if you delivered it right and she isn’t a nun.) “No, I don’t do drugs on a first date!” (key word: take your pick, drugs or date)

“Oh, but on the second you jump right in? You’ve said two things, and they both relate to illicit substances. Get your mind out of the gutter and learn to enjoy life clean too.” (Then order her a beer).

See what’s going on? Just pick a key word from her conversation, and riff off it. The above doesn’t apply because it’s too early in your duologue, but even within a few minutes of talking to ANYONE you’ll hear them use keywords that are important to THEM for whatever reason. Hook onto those and she’ll think you’re the greatest conversationalist ever – because all you talk about is what interests HER.

Example:

“That dog smells like a Thai sewer.” (key word: Thai)

“And how would you know? When were you in Thailand?”

“Last month, actually. It’s insane!” (key word: insane)

“And that’s what attracted you about it? You wanted to find others as crazy as you are?”

“No! I went to get my scuba diving certification.” (key word(s): scuba diving, and you have a topic for the next 15 minutes that you KNOW she wants to talk about).

“Homework”

Pretty easy, eh? In fact, it’s so easy, I’m going to make your homework nice and simple. Go out and have five conversations where you cue the other person off their keywords.

Have five more where you NEVER start a topic, and see how the silence feels, bearing in mind that you are SEEKING it.

Finally, pick five interesting eclectic spots near you, and go for a walk in them. Just comment in your head on what you see.

That’s it. Enjoy your new expression of personal wit and get out there and impress some ladies with it. You’re ready.

Derek Vitalio

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As you get better at talking to women, you’ll discover they set up hurdles to see how you handle them. Learn the right way, and not only will you be closer to where you want to be – you’ll become more attractive in the process.

We’re going to talk about some roadblocks now. You may have the attitude and the moves – but there are always going to be twists thrown at you along the way.

Ever been stood up? Have a woman show up an hour late with little or no warning? Whine when she isn’t getting her way?

Suuuuure you haven’t.

The truth is, most of the time this sort of behavior is YOUR OWN fault. It comes from your initial meetings – either she didn’t have as much fun with you as she should have, or you gave an indication that you can be walked over, or she just plain didn’t get excited by you.

These are all things you can solve by perfecting your relaxed confidence and playful attitude. That’ll get rid of most flaky behavior.

But sometimes women do this just to see what kind of man you REALLY are. Maybe she wants to see you again – but refuses your first request for her digits.

She might say she does that because she doesn’t want to be seen as easy – hell, she might even believe it.

But what this REALLY does is reveal who she’s dealing with. How do you react to the pressure? Do you get nervous, defensive? FLEE? Do you bow your head, shrink your shoulders, and say “That’s ok, I was just wondering. Nevermind.”?

I used to. I also used to drool over my Gerber’s meals. Doesn’t mean I still have to.

Oftentimes the woman just wants to see if the confident face you’re presenting is for real. Women have tons of tests they use on men – most of them unconscious – but after being approached by hundreds or thousands of guys over the years, women need this sort of thing to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Don’t be thrown. Recognize it as a test, and don’t let it break your character.

Now, that doesn’t mean you get pushy. Lots of guys know they shouldn’t just cave in – but they swing too far the other way, and scare women off. You want to stay playful – like what she decides to do in any situation isn’t given huge importance in your life. You’re going to have fun regardless – and if she’s smart, she’ll join in, but if not, her loss.

So, if she rebuffs a digit query, PLAY with it. “Yeah, that’s a good idea. Truth be told, I just always wanted to write one of those “For a good time call…” messages in the little boy’s room.” Keep playing with her – that sort of an opening allows for all KINDS of fun – and then later say “Excuse me, I gotta use the bathroom (beat beat), what’s your number again?”

If you’re in a bar and the woman doesn’t want to be led to another area, feel free to TEASE. “Ok, the REAL reason I’m asking is because you look like you need the exercise. I was trying to be discreet, but now you’ll just have to do your laps by yourself.” Make sure you handle this playfully, and don’t be scared to throw her by SHOWING YOUR BACK.

That’s right, if she’s not playing along, there’s no better way to say “You’re no fun” than to withdraw attention. If you’ve done the job of piquing her interest, chances are VERY good she’ll work to get it back.

And that’s what you want. You don’t want to constantly try to please her – she’ll know it, slowly lose respect for you and set the bar higher and higher. And the farther you’ll bend over backwards to please her, the less she’ll like you.

It’s a strange world.

But if you make it clear that being boring, being difficult, or – worst of all – being (legitimately) bratty isn’t something you’re going to allow into your life, not only will you gain her respect and pass her tests, you’ll probably have to deal with such behavior a lot less.

A few more examples. If you’re on the phone and you’re lady gives you a wishy-washy “Maybe” when you set up a meeting, cut off the possibility of a no-show from the get-go.

“Listen, if there’s one thing I hate, it’s flaky people. You sound like you aren’t sure about this: if you’re not going to show, tell me now. That’s cool – but wasting my time isn’t.” A strong statement like that will usually shock a lady out of her doubt – or, worst case, you’ll find out early on whether she’ll be there or not.

She shows up late and gives the flippant insincere “Sorry.” What can you say?

“That’s alright. After all, now you owe me a drink, so I’m happy.

“By the way, my usual is a magnum of Dom Perignon.”

You see what’s going on here? For the most part, you want to keep it light and happy, but you DON’T want to back down OR get upset. Your attitude should be “I enjoy my life, and if you want to join the fun, you’re welcome – but if you’re going to throw bullshit my way or try to bring me down, I’ll look elsewhere for interesting people.”

As the above statement makes clear, this isn’t just about early tests. If you’ve got a girl you’ve been seeing awhile but she starts getting negative or whiny, the same sort of thing applies.

I once had a lady I’d been seeing for about two months, when she emailed me a message saying she loved me, and asked if I loved her too. I responded playfully – made fun of her moving too fast like a horny high school boy.

She came back with “How could you sleep with me if you don’t love me?”

I responded “You’re getting way too serious. This is absolutely no fun at all.”

How’d it turn out? She wound up apologizing to ME! If you START playful and you STAY playful, you can lose all that negative crap much more easily than you think.

Not to mention, when you finally get to a point where you want to share a serious talk (NOT TOO EARLY DAMMIT!) you make it all the more meaningful.

So what’s your job for this installment? Get out that attraction journal and mark a page “Tests” Write down every test you can think of – everything that’s happened to you or you can imagine happening. They can be things women do to find out about your true character – to find out if you’re real or just an act – or they can simply be things that test your cool and control.

Then, under each entry, write down ways you can KEEP your cool. Lines you can use. Images you can call up to help you stay in the right frame of mind. Triggers that bring out your relaxed happy self.

Leave plenty of space, because you’ll constantly find new tests (I still do), and you’ll also come up with better responses over time. Plus, when you get a very confident sharp woman, these sorts of exchanges can go back and forth almost indefinitely – and you don’t want to be the one to break the chain. When the sexual tension is being dialed so high, you need to have the confidence to keep bringing it FARTHER.

Trust me. She’ll end up ripping your clothes off. But you can’t change into a wimp in front of her eyes. It’s like a beautiful woman smiling and revealing a mouth half full of black half rotten teeth.

MAJOR turn-off.

Learn to recognize these tests as opportunities – to pass, to get closer to your goal, and ALSO to TURN UP THE TENSION. Get comfortable here. It’s the best place to be.

And until it’s second nature, you’re going to want to keep PLENTY of notes in your journal about the journey.

Derek Vitalio

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What do you know now?

With what you’ve learned so far, you WILL be able to get numbers from women. Lots of them. Now I’m not saying you’ll get the info for every lady that turns your head – plenty of women will be unavailable for various reasons. Some have boyfriends, some are taking a break, some are just in the wrong mood – whatever, it doesn’t matter. You know enough to not let the unavailable women get you down, affect your confidence, or change your playfulness. We’re not worried about them.

And now that you can get the numbers of TONS of women, my job is done, right?

Wrong. This is just the FIRST STEP and you’ve got to remember that. Just because you’ve got a woman interested – and even if you keep your relaxed confidence going – there are plenty of places to stumble.

Like what? This may surprise you, but you SHOULDN’T take women on dates. That might sound strange, so I’ll phrase it another way.

If you take a woman to dinner and a movie, you’re asking to be strung along like a knitting club’s quilt. You set yourself up for all sorts of mistakes – which I’ll talk about in a second – and you’re just begging for uncomfortable silences and boring conversation.

Hey, you can make it work. You just make yourself work a LOT harder.

So what should you do instead? Well, best-case scenario you create an instant date. You go from meeting to GOING somewhere, TOGETHER. This can mean moving from the bookstore to a coffee shop, one club to another – or often, to begin, just LEADING a woman from one part of a bar to another.

That’s a POWERFUL move. Say you want to tell her something (and have something to tell her). Maybe it can be about something you want to show her at your house, like an album or a book (done subtly, this is a great way to lead to a house call). Take her hand and LEAD her to a more secluded spot.

Don’t put your hands all over her – you look desperate and pervy. But once you’ve led her somewhere, you’ve shifted the world a little bit – you are in it TOGETHER. Maintain strong eye contact. Speak in a quieter, confidential voice (the kind she wants to lean in to hear).

Set yourself up that way, and it should be much easier to get yourself moving to another spot right off the bat. The important thing is that you concentrate not on getting a woman to bed, but on moving to the next step.

Once you’ve got a connection, the next step is changing settings so you reaffirm and strengthen that connection.

This is good in so many ways. It gives you a chance to get to know the girl quickly – which is impressive when it happens quickly, plus it let’s you figure out if the lady is worth your time before you’ve invested much.

It feels natural – something even the best dates fail at.

It’s low-pressure fun – spontaneous, without expectations or commitments.

It’s just great. Not to mention it allows YOU to set the pace you proceed at.

Don’t Push.

Now, this isn’t something you ALWAYS do. If a girl is out with her friends you don’t want to impose – in fact, for that reason you should always set a time limit when you’ve started talking with a woman. “I have to get back to my friends in a few minutes, but before that…” or “I have to leave soon, but first…”

If the lady you like seems ready to follow, then you can say “I’m going to xxx, it’s a good spot, you should come. SOMEONE needs to teach you what this city has to offer.” (By the way, this is a KILLER line if you’re not a local.)

Oftentimes the woman won’t be able to join you for whatever reason – could be she’s got plans already, maybe she doesn’t want her girlfriends gossiping, she might just be shy. That’s ok. You can still meet her – but here’s how you do it.

Don’t ask her to dinner. If possible, don’t even ask her in advance. A spontaneous meeting at a coffee shop or going shopping in an eclectic neighborhood with built-in conversation is great.

Your call should sound something like this: “What are you doing right now? I’m about to hit Java Joe’s, you should come and entertain me.” “I’m shopping for some clothes, and I’d like a woman’s opinion. What are you doing now?”

Make sure you’re going somewhere fun. The kind of place with strange knick-knacks all around so you’re conversation can naturally flow from your surroundings. Why do extra work when you can let the atmosphere help you?

THIS is key, and I’ll talk about it again and again. DON’T PAY. Especially with a woman you’ve just met. Paying says all the wrong things.

Women will read it different ways; here’s a few.

It says “I’m not interesting, so I’m bribing you to spend time with me.”

It says “I want to prove I’m good mate material by showing off my financial success.”

Or the corollary: “I’m insecure, so like a man with a small penis and a hot sports car, I’m trying to buy myself some confidence.”

Worse still: “I don’t really know you, but I think you’re hot so I’m going to try and buy my way into your jeans.”

Equally cringe-worthy: “I just paid for you. Now, what are you going to do for ME?”

Oh, let’s not forget the classic: “I’m used to paying for women so they’ll keep me company. Feel free to take advantage of that and bleed me for all I can handle, regardless of whether you like me or not.”

And of course, with a certain sensitive sect of ladies, you’re saying “I’m a sexist pig. Now cook bitch.”

In fact, can you say anything good by paying? Well, you could be saying “I’m a nice, generous man.” Great. We all know by now how sexy that is.

This is one of the biggest reasons to avoid the dinner date, at least to begin. In addition to creating an awkward social setting with someone you barely know, you basically force all sorts of uncomfortable thoughts about the money involved.

Coffee? Who cares about a coupla bucks?

Shopping? You’re not going to buy her something, are you? That smells of bribery worse than dinner, and you’ll just make her uneasy.

Avoid putting yourself in situations where the issue of payment comes up, and you’ll avoid this whole can of worms.

Derek Vitalio

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This will be about a difficulty in my life that I come across every now and then and noone could help me with this up to now.
I would like to start an open discussion here about similar or different experiences. I say that explicitly because I do ask you only to answer when you have real life experience with these problems. This is nothing to be solved theoretical! Trust me. No experience - no post.
I ask everybody to read along, I will provide useful information for "un-experienced" people as well.

Starting a relationship looks pretty simple at the beginning. You go there talk to the person that you are attracted to, then you find out that she likes you too (how did that come? ), you run the whole attraction thing and the rapport thing.
You start meeting more often and you have sex somewhere within these meetings. Easy? Easy.
You start having a LTR or STR or even an FB.
Thing is: You have a "relationship" to that person now. It may not be deep, but you have some bond to that person.

Lets say you are like me:
I am a cool and sexual guy. I have many passions in my life and love living life to its fullest. And I DO that. I like to share my time on this planet with female persons. They spice up my life and make everything a bit more fun and I can add value to their life.
Simple concept: Me have fun = Attraction only.

I like every girl that I am with. Otherwise I would not be with them. If I start not liking one she is gone. I want to live life to its fullest not to the halvest.

Case 1:
I know what girls like, and I know how I like my girls. Which means I am going to do many many things with them to have fun. I do these things to have fun only, no biggie. But she will use these times to connect with me on a deeper level. Which means that she will fall in love. This process is usually a bit disguised for her. She will not notice that she fell in love immediately. She will realize that later. But I can see from the outside that she does.
These activities are things that I could do with every girl. It requires not much effort or participation from her... She will not even notice that - she just falls in love.

Case 2:
No emotional bond between me and the girl. It is sexual. Girls usually become sexually addicted pretty fast with me. They want more and more sex. This has to do with an open-for-everything and fun frame during sex. And of course basic to advanced knowledge and experience with sex.
Somewhere between the second and third sexual contact she will fall in love with me.
I had an ONS falling in love with me. I opened her within 20 mins, than 1 hr sex that I did not enjoy because I was plowed... It can stand but it will not ejaculate... that kind of sex. The she drove me home the next morning and she asked me repeatedly if we could meet again and so on, it was obvious to me that she had fallen for me.

So my theory is that a primary attraction based game is vital for the pickup. Once you have connected with here there still is the tension from the previous attraction phase. Which means the tension from attraction is being transported into comfort and seduction - otherwise a pickup is difficult for me.
This tension can be kept alive for a long time sometimes. It is like an endless and wonderful feeling like everything is new and exciting.

I love that feeling. That is why I do pickup for. That is one reason. The other is that I can have a fun time with girls.
But they tend to fall in love with me - fast. And then it is no more fun. Not because I do not like them falling in love with me - no I LOVE THAT! But when they start creating an emotional bond you will have to take care of her - which means you will have to watch out that you do not hurt her too much or do anything stupid.
I treat my girls with respect... or at least I try to.

So what is my point here: You start with Attraction game and when you continue with that frame she will fall in love. That is because you draw away from her she will draw towards you even more.
When she fell in love she will start a process in which she hopes that you have feelings for her too. Then she will want REAL feeling which I probably do not have. I mean I like her but I do not love her. I do not want to connect that deep at this time of my life.
She will start whatever to draw you into an rapport-kind of frame. No attraction left, just rapport. She will want security.

That is my experience. But with security and rapport, the nice moments with her will lack of the attraction tension and of fun. It will just become "normal".
And boring "normal" is not what I like.

So she will throw me things that I consider tests. Lets call them Relationship-tests: "You do not mind when I leave that things at you place do you?"
I hate it when they want to do that because there is no reason that I want her stuff at my place. But I am a wise guy. I know how to create the attraction tension again! I neg her or tell her off like a man:
"Yeah but I will use it up till the end of the week, so you won't see any of it when you come back."
"Yeah sure, I will throw it away then."

She will take that within the first 2 weeks of our relationship as funny. After that girls usually get mad at me for such an answer.

They expect something different.

What is THAT different?

To put it down in PU language:
I find it very hard to maintain a LTR because in my experience you have to change the frame within the relationship from attraction frame (opener up to lay) towards something else.

Now it is absolutely not possible that I will become the provider that she is subconsciously willing to form me into.
I would love to be the lover. But I figure out that when you are the lover you cannot spend much time with her or she will create an emotional bond... and even if you do not have much time she will form that emotional bond on top of the sexual bond.

How can one:
- have an (m)LTR (monogamous or polygamous on one or both sides) or even an FB
- spend fun time with the girl with precious moments (with an FB that would be the good-sex-times)
- deal with the emotional reactions of the women properly.

My girls always felt hurt when they discovered that I am not in love with them but just "like them a lot". They feel used or whatever. Which is not the case. I like these girls very much because they enrich my life. And they love me because I enrich their life on levels that nobody ever took them to. (deeeeeeep rapport)

So what are your ideas and experiences? Haven't I found the right girl to put my energy in? I sometime feel the girl cannot hold me because I am the source of all the good times and she "is just participating"... Like I am the main-protagonist and she is just someone that walks with me for a while. I sometimes feel that I would like it when the girls would know something about pickup and would give me a good time instead of me giving us a good time. Like not enough is coming back from her.

I would really love to hear how you set your frame from approach to LTR or if you have discovered similar things in the past. Do you agree, disagree? Let me know!

Again: Only answers from people that think they are qualified enough to answer.

A year in the game, and I can say with certainty that I am a PUA. To my AFC and RAFC buddies, I am a PUG.

I open dozens of sets per night. I have a stack of numbers a mile high, and no longer even bother with women who rate lower than an 8.

9++s are no problem.

I find them.

I meet them

I attract them.

I get them to go out with me, and I isolate them back at my place.

Then, it all seems to fall apart most of the time. Don't get me wrong - I've fucked 3 of the hottest women ever in that last year, more than in the previous 7 years combined, so this is major progress.

In bars and clubs and coffee shops and resturants I can kino, number and kiss close with ease, even the hottest LA women. My freinds are in disbelife at the transformation.

...but here is the problem:

For every 1 chick I've fucked in the last year, I've had 3 or 4 in isolation back at my place without closing! That's a 25% closure rate in comfort and isolation. Back in the old AFC days, if I got a chick back home in isolation, a fuck was pretty much garanteed.

I'm a PUA, but I'm still not a true seducer. A freind lent me some Speed Seduction</span> materials, and I'm starting to think this is the missing link. I've studied MM, and Dangelo, and swingcat, The problem with these methods is they are all about ATTRACTION.

As I listen to the old (1998) Speed Seduction (Tapes!) I'm realizing that I've been failing to create the proper states of mind in the women I've been isolating once they are back at my place. It's like I'm so SHOCKED to have such amazingly beautiful women alone with me, that I over react, and either:

1) Get nervous and start supplicating.

2) Fail to escalate.

3) Escalate too quickly and agressively, and get blown out.

Have others had this experince in thier development, and how have you dealt with it?

I'm excited by the Jefferies stuff, because it's exactly the sort of thing I used to do when I was getting laid as an AFC, I just didn't realize it. I would use a soft voice and tell them stories that put them at ease while making them horny. I used Ross's embedded commands and doubble entendres without even knowing what I was doing.

I had women that would call me just to talk to me and hear my voice because they thought it was so sexy. I could make one woman so hot on the phone that she would start masturbating, and then jump in her car and drive 30 miles just for a fuck!

It's like all these "methods" and techniques I've learned so far let me down at the moment of truth...like I'm analysing the situation too much, and not simply leading her THOUGHTS to the proper place they need to be.

Here is a breakdown of how I belive direct seduction is performed. Direct game has many definitions but I chose three of them which best describes how it is combined with game. Direct is: Intend to move towards a certain goal, Be in charge of, and Proceeding without deviation or interruption. Each of these three definitions of direct apply to direct game. Combining all of these definitions allow the perfect direct game to be used. Remember with direct game it's sweet and short.

With the first definition we have the intend to move towards a certain goal. This goal is your own and it is not defined by getting laid or kclosing or #closing. To have a goal you must decide yourself what you want your goal to be. If you want to just create conversation between you and another then thats what your goal is. Once you have your goal you must take action towards that goal. The second definition is to be in charge of. This is basically your alpha. As we go about the PU community we learn that we must make ourselves alpha and to be alpha you must take action over thinking. An alpha is a prime leader willing to do anything by means that allows you to get what YOU want. So in direct game you have one thing in mind, Accomplishing your goal and getting it by whatever means possible. The last part of the definition is to proceed without deviation or interruption. The definition of deviate is a person whose behavior deviates from what is acceptable especially in sexual behavior. This means to be original from every other person out there and to take total control over your target.

Direct game accomplishes many things when done properly. Direct game gives instant rapport and builds a sexual tension between the two. Direct game will give you total focus if done properly and show a dominance in the conversation which gives her a self feeling of security, because lets face it, women love to feel secure, it's the founding of what PU is.
Now direct game is not for everyone, and by this I mean a person that lacks self confidence is not the ideal person. To go about direct game you can not worry about what your target will say or do, and you can not care about what others think about you. If you lack the self-confidence then you will speak with uncertainty and as we all know is very unattractive for women. Now that the basis for direct game have been said, I would like to go into the steeps of direct game. Remember these are my opinions and have worked for me but remember what is one mans trash is another mans treasure.
The Steeps of Direct Game
Opener

When finding a set you must do what every pu consist of which is an opener. Any opener will work for direct game so chose them to what is most comfortable with you. I personally like to open with a question about their style such as; " Wow, did you match your shoes with your shirt on purpose?< in a sarcastic voice>" or " Did you know my grandma has a bag just like that!" You can go with any route on the opener but best I found is either a question, situation, or just saying HI. This part is your preference.

Gain Focus To You

After you have successfully gained her attention your goal is to keep it. From here you will want to DHV. I like to go on with a story about a girl that my target reminds me of. I like to tell a story that is embarrassing. Usually something along the lines of, " You look just like this one girl I saw at the bar last week, she was absolutely wasted and tried to be sexy and get on a table and dance. Well she comes over to me and says "hey help me get on the bar" I respond with "well if I do that will you buy me a drink?" And sure enough she said yup, so as I'm helping her get up she gets on this table and I can see the one leg is offset and sure enough, WHAM!!!! she drops off the floor, and I run over to check on her and of course get my free beer < wink>.
After telling the story I like to make my move to her because she is thinking at this time, wow really. So I add in" yeah, now that I think of it she had a shirt on just like that, Wait a second< pause> Was that you? < kino the arm> This will usually lead to a greater focus to you.

Small Talk

After gaining her attention I usually like to lead into some small talk. Simple questions about herself. This part allows you to let her build a trust in you. This part should be no longer than 5-10 min. If you go on to long you become that weird guy and too short will make her not feel comfortable enough to use the direct game.

The Direct Aspect

Remember the definitions at this time. You are already starting to accomplish your goal at this point and now you have to be in charge. At this point you want to take the conversation from a question point to a straight comment part. By this I mean stop asking the dumb questions and start to make comments to her. This is your time, be the alpha. I like to use Funny and confident not cocky. By this I like to make comments such as, " you know we are too much alike, we would never work out from here on, you are my future ex-wife." or " did you know that you give people around us the meanest look if you don't approve of something. < putting them on the ledge as I call it.> At this point you have built total security with her and are like old friends that have not seen one another since high school. Now you are 1. building connection to a deeper level or 2. making her DHV for you.

Being Dominate

Now after this connection is built and there has been a few comments struck in her mind about you and her it's time to take control of the whole situation. At this point you should stand up, grab her hand, and move to an isolated position. From this point on you are no longer asking anything you are telling, When you grab her hand tell her, " Come with me" This shows the confidence in you which women love.

Direct

Now that you have gained some kind of control over her and have moved to an isolated place it is time to be direct with her. Make sexual comments to her, such as; " See me and you, we would make a perfect couple until we got the divorce. I mean the sex. Wow!!!, lol" Comments made towards her sticks to her mind and puts these ideas into her head. But Remember One thing. KINO KINO KINO!!!!!!!! I can not stress that enough. You should be making kino while the other stages are being done but at this point, it has to be stronger. Grab her close to you etc. Finally at the end of the point just flat out say, " I'm sure you will like this < touch chin, go in for kiss.> This must be done properly so be smart.

Thats pretty much all of it, thanks for reading and please leave comments on what you think. : D